The modern world is literally overflowing with thematic literature on self-knowledge, and Internet publications daily publish excerpts from scientific articles by specialists: psychology is increasingly becoming the subject of our interest. After all, each of us wants to be in harmony with our own “I”, make the most of the possibilities of the mind and build harmonious relationships with friends and loved ones. We have prepared for you 50 entertaining facts that will help you understand yourself and better understand the people around you.
50 interesting psychology facts
1. The smarter a person is, the more often he is not sure of his own beliefs.
2. If after communicating with a specific person you experience negative emotions and feel an unpleasant aftertaste, you have dealt with a toxic person.
3. A signature can tell a lot about a person. For example, the larger your signature, the higher your self-esteem.
4. When the company is filled with laughter, everyone looks at the one he likes the most.
5. Addressing people by their name, you have them more to yourself and increase the degree of trust in your own person.
6. 80% of people meet their future spouses at the age of 16.
7. Most of us suffer from phantom vibration syndrome: it seems that the mobile phone is vibrating, when in fact the device does not make any sound.
8. It takes only 4 minutes for a person to fall in love.
9. According to the law of polarity, opposites attract: we are inevitably attracted to people with opposite qualities.
10. The wiser a person is, the less often he gives advice. (Be wary of people who give you too many unsolicited recommendations.)
11. Our hearts have nothing to do with the feeling of being "in love", it's just a chemical reaction taking place in the brain.
12. Finding your true calling requires taking action. Follow your beliefs and they will lead you to your goal.
13. Our brain has a negative bias and tends to remember bad memories more than good ones.
14. If you fixate on problems, there will be more problems. When you focus on opportunities, more opportunities will appear.
15. You make a lasting first impression within 5 seconds of how you look, how you talk, and what you say.
16. A good way to focus and focus is to mentally talk to yourself while doing a task.
17. People who regularly help others are significantly happier and less likely to get depressed as they get older.
18. People who walk fast are usually more confident and happy than those who walk at a slow pace.
19. A woman will only argue with someone she truly cares about. Less controversy means less interest.
20. Energetic music stimulates brain waves that improve concentration even after you stop listening to it.
21. Dog owners laugh more often than cat owners and people who don't have pets.
22. If you expect something in return for your noble deeds, you are far from being a good person.
23. People who tend to have their heads in the clouds are usually better at coping with complex problems.
24. We are subconsciously more attracted to people who have the same taste in music.
25. You are more likely to achieve your goals if you keep them to yourself.
26. A lie requires more mental effort than the truth. When we tell a lie, we involuntarily wonder if it will fit our common “legend”, and we also worry about the impact even the smallest lie will have on our lives, relationships, and authority. Honesty has almost no negative consequences.
27. Watching a Harrowing Movie Makes People Think Deeper: Research at Ohio State University found that watching a movie tragedy makes people take a closer look at their lives and relationships.
28. People who think they are being watched usually behave better: as a rule, the presence of "others" encourages us to do the "right" things in order to gain "social" recognition and approval.
29. Waking up on the wrong side of the bed affects our happiness. A 2011 study found that those who sleep on the left side (if standing at the foot of the bed) are happier than those who sleep on the right.
30. Placebo can have the same effect as real treatments. Recent studies have shown that the placebo effect can lead to real biological changes, and this fact can turn the world of medicine upside down.
31. People need only one thing to be happy - to focus on what they have in the moment, and not worry about what they do not have or may never have.
32. Often the best way to attract someone is to stop paying attention to them.
33. Never worry about someone not loving you for who you are. Because there will always be someone who will love you for the same reason.
34. Often people do not listen to understand - they are waiting for their turn to speak.
35. People with low self-esteem tend to put others down.
36. Those who play video games are much more likely to have lucid dreams.
37. Mental activity also burns calories.
38. Death is the second thing people fear the most. The first is the fear of failure.
39. Chocolate and shopping can be more addictive than drugs.
40. Women with higher IQs have a harder time finding a partner.
41. People look more attractive when they talk about things they are really interested in.
42. The average time that women can keep a secret is 48 hours.
43. When someone cries with happiness, the first tear falls from the right eye. Tears of pain, as a rule, begin to flow from the left.
44. 95% of the time when people say they want to ask a question, you replay in your head all the bad things you've done recently.
45. Smart people tend to underestimate themselves, while ignorant people think they are great.
46. Writing down negative things and throwing them in the trash is a psychological trick that can improve your mood.
47. Once you accept your flaws, no one can use them against you.
48. When you stop associating with unnecessary people, good things will begin to happen in your life, and this will not be a coincidence.
49. People's favorite topic is themselves. So if you want someone to like you, talk about their persona.
50. You can die from a broken heart. It's called broken heart syndrome.
We encounter and interact with people almost every day, and we come across different personalities along the way. Of course, it would be much nicer to communicate only with those who sympathize with us. But the reality is that we inevitably meet people with whom we do not have the same point of view on specific issues and situations. As much as we would like it, we cannot completely control the minds of those around us. However, with the help of the complex science of psychology, we can try to figure out the character of the new acquaintance that is before us.
20 signs that will tell you a lot about people and help control their behavior
We have selected 20 psychological facts that will teach you to understand people, effectively build communication with them and get the most out of it.
1. Pay attention to gait: if a person wags his hips strongly, most likely he is used to breaking the rules and it doesn’t matter to him what others think of him; if a person walks normally and stands straight without bending his knees, he appreciates people and cares about their feelings and emotions.
2. If your interlocutor scratches his nose, it means that he is a little nervous and worried about what others think about his appearance.
3. If you want to know if you are being followed, yawn and look around: if someone nearby is also yawning, then they have been looking at you all this time.
4. If a person has thick eyebrows, he is most likely a little aggressive or short-tempered.
5. If you want to build a relationship with a person, before shaking his hand, make sure that it is warm. Cold hands usually awaken distrust on a subconscious level.
6. When you ask a question, an easy way to get others to agree with you is to nod during the conversation. Such a gesture is associated with positive, so it will make the listeners think that your words are the ultimate truth.
7. If during a conversation the interlocutor tilts his head to the side, this is a sign that he is comfortable being around you and he likes what you are talking about.
8. The strongest and most vivid memories of a person, as a rule, are associated with what happens at the beginning or at the end, while the middle becomes blurry. Therefore, if you have the opportunity to set the interview time yourself, be the first or last candidate.
9. When you argue with someone, be calmer than your opponent. This behavior will cause the person to throw out something that you can later use against him.
10. If a person raises his eyebrows at the sight of you, he is pleased to see you. This happens on a subconscious level.
11. An effective way to win over a person is to establish long-term eye contact with him. If doing this is difficult and uncomfortable for you, try looking at the person in the area between the eyes or eyebrows. The interlocutor will not notice anything, and you will look friendly and confident.
12. Joy can radiate not only a smile, but also eyes. If you see small wrinkles around the eyes, this is a sign that you are genuinely happy to see you. This is what is called a smile with the eyes (smize). Otherwise, be wary of the person.
13. As a rule, people with wide and elongated foreheads are more intelligent or have a good sense of humor.
14. When talking to someone, watch their feet - this can tell a lot about the interlocutor's body language. For example, when you approach a person, and he turns to you only with his body, he probably wants to be left alone. If during a conversation the interlocutor's legs are turned away from you, most likely he wants to run away as soon as possible. When you're talking to someone and they cross their legs awkwardly, it's a sign that the person is insecure, afraid of you, or worse, lying to you.
15. If you suspect that you will be thrashed by your boss in a meeting, sit next to him. Most often, people feel uncomfortable and unpleasant to raise their voice to someone who is nearby.
16. Women who like to use pink or red lipsticks love freedom and are always open to adventure, while those who prefer dark brown colors are more calm and serious. If your interlocutor is shy, keep looking at him and nodding in time with his words. This technique encourages you to keep talking.
17. In crowded places, people tend to look others in the eye to see where they are going in order to avoid a collision. Use this to your advantage: look in the direction you want to go when in a crowd. You will be surprised, but the people around you will instinctively clear the passage for you.
18. Silence is the best way to confront an angry person. To neutralize the opponent and make him feel ashamed of his words, just keep silent. Do not respond with aggression for aggression. It always helps.
19. Kindness is the most effective "weapon". Use it in disputes. In addition to being silent, you can show a little positivity or courtesy. There is nothing more painful for rude people than a small dose of kindness.
20. If you think that someone does not like you / does not want to communicate with you / is dismissive of you, you think that the person will refuse your request, etc., ask him for a small favor first, for example, lend you a pen. Even if you're about to say no to a basic request/answer, asking for a pen is such a small favor that it's incredibly hard for anyone to say no. By accepting your request for a small favor, the person may eventually come to the conclusion that you can be trusted, and there is a chance that he will change his attitude towards you. This psychological trick is called the "Benjamin Franklin effect" because he regularly used it in his practice.
In modern life, we are bombarded with many events that lead to stress and depression. Relationships with people also often cause negative emotions and a desire to escape to a desert island. What to do with it?
Tips for your mental health and ways to deal with depression
Bemorepanda has collected interesting facts from the field of psychology that will help you cope with negativity in everyday life, end depression and improve relationships with loved ones!
1. Depression is not always the desire to sit in a dark room and sob over your fate. More often than not, we have to get up and go to work, smile and talk all day there, and when we get home, sit quietly in a stupor and do nothing until it's time to go to bed. Mental illness is not as rare as one might think. Recent studies show that in the US alone, 26% of adults suffer from mental health problems.
2. Sometimes a frustrated person is consoled: "Don't be sad, look around - other people are doing even worse than you." This is a terrible consolation. To say this is the same as saying that a person should not be happy, because others still have more happiness. We need to remind ourselves that each of us has our own personal emotional experience and is completely separate from any other.
3. People around do not understand how much strength it takes to mentally pull yourself out of the dark pool of depression. So if you did it today or any other day, be proud of yourself! Now, as psychologists say, we have a real crisis of a healthy psyche. More people than ever in history are struggling with depression and anxiety. Therefore, it is very important to learn as much as possible about mental health and arm yourself with advice.
4. You should never feel guilty about distancing yourself from those people in your life who are negative about your personality and thereby harm your mental health.
5. Your mental health will really change when you stop asking yourself, "Why am I so lazy?" and start asking, “Why does my body need so much rest right now?” Read it again and remember well.
6. You won't lose real friends or personal relationships when you start saying no, set clear boundaries, and stand up for yourself somewhere. Offenders, manipulators, narcissists and control freaks will fall off you.
7. As it turned out, pets are better able to support their owner in grief than the surrounding people.
8. You are not lazy, you are just tired. You've lived in survival mode for so long. Your mind is exhausted. You are still experiencing psychological trauma. Tell yourself this often and be kind to yourself, please. It is extremely important to take care of your mental health. However, sometimes certain situations or feelings can become overwhelming. Most people are not educated enough to know exactly how to deal with all this properly. Therefore, it is important to seek the help of professionals.
9. Sometimes happiness looks like this: you just stay at home and mind your own business. When you need to, you say “no” to people and just take care of yourself.
10. There is such a term - "pluviophile". It refers to a person who loves the sound of rain or feels joy and peace on rainy days.
11. If a friend didn't respond to my message, but I see his activity on social networks, will I be upset? Not worth it - perhaps this is because he is loaded with work, overworked and decided to take a break, paused for a cup of tea. You must understand that you have no rights to someone's rest time. True friends understand that everyone needs a break.
12. If going to a doctor with a physical illness is normal and does not raise any questions, then going to a psychotherapist with a mental disorder should also be normal. Let's do away with this prejudice that everyone condemns those who go to a psychologist.
13. People in psychotherapy often need a course to learn how to deal with people in their lives who don't go into therapy.
14. Children who grow up in a stressful environment where they are raised by strict parents are more likely to get depression and may have mental problems in the future, when they become adults.
15. Do not be afraid to lose people in your environment by quarreling with them. But be afraid to lose yourself instead when you try to please everyone around you.
16. Don't take everything you're told personally. What people say is often a reflection of themselves, not your personality.
17. People with a sarcastic nature tend to be more honest and outspoken with friends.
18. Not talking about things just to keep the "peace" can be a reaction to trauma. When you do this, you are not respecting YOUR boundaries. No matter what, continue to take your own place in the world and use your voice.
19. Everyone should remember that rejecting toxic friends or a toxic spouse does not make you a bad person!
20. You will be very disappointed if you think that people will do for you what you do for them. Not everyone has the same heart as you. (Christian Bale).
21. Childhood trauma is not just something your family did to you. These are bullying at school and unsafe neighborhoods, poor health care, teachers and medical staff abusing you, neglect and judgment, humiliation of you because of your culture or financial situation.
22. In psychology, there is the Dunning-Kruger effect. According to him, it is common for smart people to underestimate their own abilities. And vice versa, ignorant people think that they are brilliant in everything.
23. Everything is laid from early childhood. It is wrong to think that children will not be affected by early life experiences. Everything matters. Even little things.
24. Stop taking your phone to the bathroom. Stop using your phone while eating. Stop reaching for your phone when you have a minute or two of free time. Let yourself be bored a little. In our world full of distractions, create a point of focus on yourself.
25. Fathers who do more housework, like cleaning and doing laundry, tend to have more ambitious daughters.
26. Your influence on other people is greater than you think. You have no idea, but right now there is someone laughing at your funny story. Someone is pleased, and he smiles at the compliment that you once made. You are not insignificant and not forgotten. Your existence is meaningful and full of positive meaning, whether you see it or not.
27. When you are ignored by someone who is very dear to you, your brain's reaction is similar to physical pain. Spending time with those you love can help your mental well-being. Communication reduces stress - people are happiest when they communicate for 6-7 hours a day.
28. Therapist's advice: If your mental well-being begins to affect your physical state, treat yourself as if you were sick. Take a nap, drink plenty of fluids, relax, watch old favorite movies. The whole world can wait.
29. Depression, contrary to social media, is out of fashion. Anxiety is not a bizarre or endearing eccentricity. Address all your mental health issues, but don't romanticize them. Be sure to find opportunities to pay close attention to your own mental well-being.
30. When you notice that your mental health is deteriorating, urgently do something to calm you down. Take a hot shower, clean your room, text your loved one, go for a walk outside. One small step is all you need to remind yourself that depression is not forever. Fortunately, there are ways to improve your mood. Everyone can find an opportunity to be a little happy. For some, it may be time spent with family, while others may find peace in knitting. Traveling is a popular activity that increases serotonin levels in the brain.
31. Apologies are not a sign of weakness, as many people think. This is a sign that you are ready to grow on past mistakes. This is a maturity trait that indicates that you are more interested in rebuilding relationships than feeding your own ego.
32. Hypersomnia is a condition in which a person can sleep from 12 to 15 hours, but wakes up feeling tired. Research has proven a strong link between stress and sleep. As it turns out, people who get less rest feel more irritable and depressed. They also show deeper stress. Some don't feel well because they can't get enough sleep; others can't sleep because they're already stressed. This circular relationship demonstrates how important it is to follow a regular sleep schedule.
33. Those people who often worry and think a lot - as a rule, the owners of a more developed verbal intelligence. They are dominated by critical thinking and have the ability to solve problems.
34. Blue causes the brain to release relaxing hormones.
35. Imagine planting a seed and then digging it up every few minutes to see if it has grown. You won't do that, will you? So why do you keep asking yourself disturbing questions? Be patient and keep watering the seeds.
36. If you marry your childhood best friend, then the risk of divorce is reduced by 70%.
37. People who laugh more, endure pain better - both physical and moral.
38. You can be happy and grateful to fate, and at the same time struggle with the problems of your own psyche. Remember this.
39. Music has been found to be able to repair certain brain damage. In addition, under its influence, lost memories return. Music is also a great stress reliever and source of positive emotions. Whether you're listening to Bach or humming the Beatles, music stimulates your brain in the right way. White noise devices are also useful for people who are looking for a way to relax.
40. Anyone who is truly confident in their beliefs and life choices will not feel the need to force anyone to share the same beliefs and make the same choices. People often convince you to convince yourself.
41. Do not write off the bad words you have spoken to your dirty mood. If you can change the mood, then it is unlikely that you can take back the spoken words.
42. Unfollow, unfriend, block, delete and disconnect from everyone and everything that robs you of peace and happiness. Not only in social networks, but also in real life.
43. Stress is not only the presence of difficult situations. It is also the absence of play, beauty, nature, laughter, communication and fun. Smartphones are another cause of stress, due to the resulting negative mood. Stress is often inherent in young people due to their "hang" in social networks - this causes a deterioration in mental state.
44. Shy people have one advantage - they tend to have excellent powers of observation, which makes it easier for them to find the root of the problem.
45. When people get older, the brain no longer enjoys the sound of new music, and this leads to stagnation in their musical taste.
46. Those people who live closer to the ocean or sea tend to have better mental health and lower levels of psychological stress.
47. People who are easily distracted tend to be more creative.
48. It is extremely useful to expand your vocabulary. This may protect you from depression. You will more accurately label and therefore control your emotions.
49. Men tend to value male friends who are physically fit, wealthy, high status, and have a social circle that includes potential business partners. In contrast, women tend to value friends who provide emotional support, closeness, and helpful social information.
50. If you wake up just one hour earlier than usual, it will help reduce the risk of depression by 23%.
We have prepared for you 50 entertaining facts that will help you understand yourself and better understand the people around you.
What psychological facts about humans are little known?
The modern world is literally overflowing with thematic literature on self-knowledge, and Internet publications daily publish excerpts from scientific articles by specialists: psychology is increasingly becoming the subject of our interest. After all, each of us wants to be in harmony with our own “I”, make the most of the possibilities of the mind and build harmonious relationships with friends and loved ones.
1. The smarter a person is, the more often he is not sure of his own beliefs.
2. If after communicating with a specific person you experience negative emotions and feel an unpleasant aftertaste, you have dealt with a toxic person.
3. A signature can tell a lot about a person. For example, the larger your signature, the higher your self-esteem.
4. When the company is filled with laughter, everyone looks at the one he likes the most.
5. Addressing people by their name, you have them more to yourself and increase the degree of trust in your own person.
6. 80% of people meet their future spouses at the age of 16.
7. Most of us suffer from phantom vibration syndrome: it seems that the mobile phone is vibrating, when in fact the device does not make any sound.
8. It takes only 4 minutes for a person to fall in love.
9. According to the law of polarity, opposites attract: we are inevitably attracted to people with opposite qualities.
10. The wiser a person is, the less often he gives advice. (Be wary of people who give you too many unsolicited recommendations.)
11. Our hearts have nothing to do with the feeling of being "in love", it's just a chemical reaction taking place in the brain.
12. Finding your true calling requires taking action. Follow your beliefs and they will lead you to your goal.
13. Our brain has a negative bias and tends to remember bad memories more than good ones.
14. If you fixate on problems, there will be more problems. When you focus on opportunities, more opportunities will appear.
15. You make a lasting first impression within 5 seconds of how you look, how you talk and what you say.
16. A good way to focus and focus is to mentally talk to yourself while doing a task.
17. People who regularly help others are significantly happier and less likely to get depressed as they get older.
18. People who walk fast are usually more confident and happy than those who walk at a slow pace.
19. A woman will only argue with someone she truly cares about. Less controversy means less interest.
20. Energetic music stimulates brain waves that improve concentration even after you stop listening to it.
21. Dog owners laugh more often than cat owners and people who don't have pets.
22. If you expect something in return for your noble deeds, you are far from being a good person.
23. People who tend to have their heads in the clouds are usually better at coping with complex problems.
24. We are subconsciously more attracted to people who have the same taste in music.
25. You are more likely to achieve your goals if you keep them to yourself.
26. A lie requires more mental effort than the truth. When we tell a lie, we involuntarily wonder if it will fit our common “legend”, and we also worry about the impact even the smallest lie will have on our lives, relationships, and authority. Honesty has almost no negative consequences.
27. Watching a Harrowing Movie Makes People Think Deeper: Research at Ohio State University found that watching a movie tragedy makes people take a closer look at their lives and relationships.
28. People who think they are being watched usually behave better: as a rule, the presence of "others" encourages us to do the "right" things in order to gain "social" recognition and approval.
29. Waking up on the wrong side of the bed affects our happiness. A 2011 study found that those who sleep on the left side (if standing at the foot of the bed) are happier than those who sleep on the right.
30. Placebo can have the same effect as real treatments. Recent studies have shown that the placebo effect can lead to real biological changes, and this fact can turn the world of medicine upside down.
31. People need only one thing to be happy - to focus on what they have in the moment, and not worry about what they do not have or may never have.
32. Often the best way to attract someone is to stop paying attention to them.
33. Never worry about someone not loving you for who you are. Because there will always be someone who will love you for the same reason.
34. Often people do not listen to understand - they are waiting for their turn to speak.
35. People with low self-esteem tend to put others down.
36. Those who play video games are much more likely to have lucid dreams.
37. Mental activity also burns calories.
38. Death is the second thing people fear the most. The first is the fear of failure.
39. Chocolate and shopping can be more addictive than drugs.
40. Women with higher IQs have a harder time finding a partner.
41. People look more attractive when they talk about things they are really interested in.
42. The average time that women can keep a secret is 48 hours.
43. When someone cries with happiness, the first tear falls from the right eye. Tears of pain, as a rule, begin to flow from the left.
44. 95% of the time when people say they want to ask a question, you replay in your head all the bad things you've done recently.
45. Smart people tend to underestimate themselves, while ignorant people think they are great.
46. Writing down negative things and throwing them in the trash is a psychological trick that can improve your mood.
47. Once you accept your shortcomings, no one can use them against you.
48. When you stop associating with unnecessary people, good things will begin to happen in your life, and this will not be a coincidence.
49. People's favorite topic is themselves. So if you want someone to like you, talk about their persona.
50. You can die from a broken heart. It's called broken heart syndrome.
Sometimes it can seem like people go through life with cheat codes - as if there are some life hacks that others do not know about. Especially when it comes to communicating with other people.
Tricks, tips and tricks on psychology that will come in handy in life
And speaking of communication hacks, there really are a lot of tips and tricks that you can use to your advantage in order to connect with people more easily. So, Reddit user Aggravating_Taste821 asked about secret psychological tricks that really work, and we decided to take note of them, because most of the tricks really seemed to us useful.
Here are some of the most interesting tricks and tips:
1. "Nod your head slightly when you want someone to agree with what you are saying." — SumerianProgRocker
“When I was a bartender, I always taught new waiters this trick. If you want your table to stay for dessert, nod your head slightly when you ask them if they want dessert. It works very effectively!” — GozerDGozerian
2. “When someone is rude to you, keep quiet and stare at him. This will make him feel incredibly awkward, and after a few seconds he will usually act much more polite."
**DISCLAIMER** Do not do this with people who exhibit aggressive behavior and/or are in an unsafe enclosed environment. ... This is a tactic designed to be used on mature adults in a safe environment.” — Natasha_JB
3. Likewise: “I never went that far, but I lowered my voice to a whisper so they couldn’t hear me because of their own delusions. Typically, after a few moments, they subconsciously adjust their volume to match yours and calm down. ... It's a great trick on my daughter if she's not already too excited." — somedudeshomie
4. Silence also works if you want someone to confess to something: “If you want to know something, ask a question and wait. People want to fill the silence and will be ready to speak.” — stormbrewing_
5. Or if you want them to come back with a better offer: “Waiting for a few seconds or even minutes before saying something after someone has made you an offer… there is a high chance they will agree, what do you say next. People hate awkward silences—especially salespeople.” — Kthak_Back
6. “Ask people to explain what they mean when they are offensive is extremely effective, especially if there is an audience around. "Could you explain what you mean?" And then someone feels like a mountain of awkwardness and shame falls on him. - Incorect_Speling
"Could you repeat that, please?" People take that extra punch and understand what they're saying: "I don't get it, could you explain the joke to me?" goes very well with offensive humor." — JanuarySoCold
7. “If someone bothers you too much by coming to your table, continue the conversation but get up and escort them back to their table. We had a boss who was a guru in this business.” — FrozenBanana46
8. "If you're sick of people (especially co-workers) poking their noses into your personal life..." People love to talk about themselves. Ask questions about their personal lives. " with people who could not tell anything about me except my appearance, or mistakenly assumed that I had exactly the same interests and opinions. Such a psychological expansion of ourselves.” — fappyday
9. “If someone doesn't want to give you specific information, like tuition fees or expected hours, give a completely unreasonable example. They usually give you the exact number right away and are embarrassed that they pretend not to know.”
"Example: Me: How much does your C++ course cost?
Them: It really depends on your goals.
Me: Do you have a beginner course? Can you give me a price range?
Them: We can work with you to meet your individual needs.
Me: Okay, okay. So it's, like, $10 for access to all of your courses, or...
Them: Oh no. We have a subscription for $99/month where you can buy a beginner course for $120.
Not very often helpful, but works every time." — Ender367
10. “In a competitive environment, if you notice that your opponent is new or showing signs of anxiety, ask him: “Are you nervous?”, Trying to act as casually as possible (I will even yawn if I can). It always activates in people the desire to fight, if they are not initially strong in spirit. — DrooMighty
11. “If you make the favor bigger than it actually is before you ask for it, the person you are doing the favor is more likely to help.” — SuperDuperStoney
“Baby, can you do me the biggest favor? Can you turn off the light when you go to bed?" She would have done it anyway, but now she feels like a hero." — xxnkatxx
12. “On topic: The brain doesn’t like cognitive dissonance. So if I do you a favor, some part of my subconscious will most likely say that I did the favor because they liked you.” — TheWurstOfMe
13. Speaking of favors... “Whenever I want to help someone with something, but I know that their pride gets in the way or they don’t want to impose, I first ask them for a favor, even if it’s not for me need. For example, you can ask a colleague how they came up with a solution, and then "repay" the favor by saying "Do you want to see something interesting that I recently learned?", and show them how to do something more efficiently / correctly ". — tetsujo
14. "Change your perspective from 'I' to 'we' and people will automatically join you." — fckmelifemate
15. “Mirroring is a great way to make someone feel more comfortable with you: Mirroring (or mirroring) is wild… it’s so obvious to a third person observer looking for signs of a reflection, but the person being mirrored is like usually has little awareness because it is mostly subconscious and works subtly when you are the subject of a conversation because you are also distracted by the content of the conversation.
You can use this to your advantage by deliberately copying the people you are trying to covertly influence by copying their mannerisms, posture, and other behaviors. It will make you feel better and make you more authoritative and trustworthy because you will literally remind people of yourself.” - thisismyaccount3125
16. “You can also fine-tune their mood and behavior by starting by mirroring (until they mirror you) and then adjusting your tone/assertiveness: “I am a psychologist and I use this technique every day with my patients, especially with those who are initially distracted when we start because they were just dealing with traffic and finding parking in the city to get to a meeting. It only takes a few minutes and works incredibly well. You do what they do, not as a copycat, but in a similar way. Then, when things get comfortable, you can start taking deeper, slower breaths, moving into a more relaxed sitting position, and they usually follow you.” — allbright1111
17. “People have predictable patterns when choosing things at random. If you ask 100 people to pick a random number between 1 and 10, many people will pick 3 or 7. Even the highest/lowest (1 and 10) and middle (5) numbers don't seem "random enough". So when I play board games like Catan, or card games where others have to pick a random card from my hand, I always put my highest value card on either side, not in the middle, as the middle "seems" more random ". — MankeyBusiness
18. “If someone is wrong (when you know 100% that they are), but the remark will have little effect on the conversation, argument, etc., just keep it to yourself. Don't embarrass or belittle him and stop the conversation." — akw314
19. “Not really that wise, but every mistake I make at work, I try my best to acknowledge. For some reason, that makes me more trustworthy." — Freaksenius
“I do the same, and also try to sing the praises of everyone who helped me. Makes people want to work with you, and why not? That's who I want to work with." – crazyrich
20. “If you want to get consent from someone you know fairly well, start the conversation by talking about times in the past when you collaborated similarly towards a common goal. One or two examples will suffice. This encourages them to enter your current offer.” — Python007
21. "People will be more supportive of your idea if they think it's THEIR idea and they came up with it." — SteveJones313
22. “Ask a question: “Do you want to tell me something?” And don't say anything else or just leave the room. Works for children and adults. — Nc910259
23. “The easiest way to lie is to let the person you are lying to come to their own conclusion about lying, and then agree with that conclusion. Another thing you can do to easily reduce the chance of being caught lying is to simply not lie so that when you lie, it will be taken as the truth.” — Dan0972
24. “Use phrases like “Thank you for your patience” instead of apologizing. [It] takes the blame off you and makes the other person feel better.” — coffeedomed
25. “When you walk in a crowded place, look where you are going and not at other people. They will naturally move out of your line of sight, which will speed up your movement." — Danger_Dee
“Also extend your arm in front of you as if pointing at something, and people will step aside.” — timothybrooks7
26. “If you ask someone to move to any other place to talk (it can be as little as 1.5-2 meters away), your interlocutor is much more likely to listen to you and follow instructions.” — jerikkoa
27. “Not sure what to say but want to continue the conversation? Repeat the last sentence of the last question the person said, asking them again, hinting at a more detailed explanation. — aciddd123
28. “Be careful not to let this psychological effect fool you and make you unhappy: Sunk cost. Essentially, any time, effort, or money that has already been spent tends to factor into decisions when it shouldn't. When I met my wife, she always finished her drinks, even if she didn't like them, because she paid for them. I asked her if you have already paid for them, then the money is gone. Why suffer for a drink you didn't like?
If there is literally no change as a result, as opposed to not drinking it... except that it is not enjoyable? This is why buying a car takes so long. You've already wasted so much time that you almost feel like you should buy it. INVESTED time, and I need to get something for this investment. And damn it, I don't want to go through this again!" — Aerotank2099
29. And finally, funny: "The person at my job showed me that just reach out to give someone a random item ... half the time they will take it." — Connect_Sail7082
“It depends on what you give them. While working in retail, I learned that if you hand something to someone during a call, they take it, put it in their pocket/wallet/etc, and then don't remember you giving it to them. ". It has worked on every person I have tried." — SkyKitten387
In recent decades, the book market and Internet resources have been actively offering us applied psychological knowledge and skills. And they are in high demand: we all want to be happy, successful, attractive, and interesting to others. We also want to make friends and manage people (at least a little, but in our favor).
Is it manipulation or not? The question is ambiguous, but in any case, awareness will help to avoid negative impact. And this will not be manipulated, and we will be treated better.
Psychological tricks, tips, and tricks
We at Bemorepanda present a selection of psychological tricks from Reddit.com users, which in most cases, help to model the behavior of others. And with what intentions do we do the study and use of this knowledge, this weapon - presumably, we will get the appropriate result?
1. “When my dog doesn’t want to eat what was offered to her, I turn on the stove and pretend to cook food: I take some condiments, pretend to pour ... Nothing changes, but now the dog is interested.” — Giggity_0_0 / reddit.com
2. “When preparing for an exam, try to study in different places and conditions (in different rooms of your house, in the library, on the street, etc.). Different conditions create more connections in your brain with the material you are learning, and you are more likely to remember everything.” — never_mind_its_me / reddit.com
3. “Compliment people not in the face, but in their absence. Do not manipulate; sincerely praise people, it will somehow become known to them, and they will be imbued with good feelings for you. — Ian_Pierce / Reddit.com
4. “If you need to get information from someone, first tell him something wrong. People are much more willing to correct you than help you.” — Equinsu-0cha / Reddit.com
5. “Don't try to defend your position when someone criticizes, gets angry or disagrees with you. Just shrug your shoulders and get on with your life." — pippi_longstocking09 / reddit.com
6. "If you feel that someone does not like you, ask him for advice about what he understands better than you." — Hopesick_2231 / Reddit.com
7. “Speak a little quieter when you have something important. The other person will go out of their way to hear you." — profile3r/reddit.com
8. “I noticed that people allow me to do good deeds for them if they think I am doing it out of selfish motives. “Let me cook for you! I need to practice this dish!” — PrimusAldente87 / Reddit.com
9. “My kids never wanted to take a nap, so when it was bedtime, I told them, “Don’t sleep, sorry, you CAN’T even doze off.” Surprisingly, they immediately wanted to take a nap: it worked.” — CA_Dreamer / Reddit.com
10. “It has always amazed me how effective silence can be. Some people get so uncomfortable with him that they tell you, without stopping, what they did not plan to talk about. — mylifeisalietoday / Reddit.com
11. “You don't have to try too hard to participate in a conversation. Repeating part of the other person's sentences as a question may be more than enough to keep it going. I learned this in a negotiation masterclass.” — BunRoadhay / Reddit.com/Reddit.com
12. "In stressful situations, speak slowly and quietly." — bjanas/reddit.com
13. “Just listening to someone, not giving advice or asking for more information, I usually get more information than asking.” — JanelLiie / Reddit.com
14. “I like to write positive affirmations on the bathroom mirror. These thoughts penetrate my subconscious and help my mental state during the depression.” — HuntEnvironmental863 / Reddit.com
15. “Some kids are desperate for a compliment, so I thank them and encourage whatever I find helpful. “You are a champion, man; I saw you wash all the dishes again. It's amazing". — NeoPagan94 / Reddit.com
16. “My friend in high school told me that she did things around the house without asking or being reminded, and her mom rarely denied her anything in return. I tried it on my mom. Twenty minutes and it worked: the curfew is no longer in effect. I started doing this every day. My older brother couldn't understand why he was only allowed to take his father's work van, and I always took my mother's convertible." — tikideathpunch / Reddit.com
17. “When people ask for advice, I mentally guide them through various scenarios that can happen depending on their actions or choices. Then I ask them which outcome they prefer." — Akanaro / Reddit.com/Reddit.com
18. “Praise someone who is being rude. It just knocks them off their feet." — owlpee/reddit.com/reddit.com
19. “When someone makes an inappropriate joke (sexist, racist, etc.), tell him, “I don’t understand.” Let them try to explain why it's funny. Sometimes it helps people think and grow up.” — Slartibartfast / Reddit.com
20. “Whenever my wife asks me to do something I don’t want, I say, “That’s my favorite thing to do.” And I go and do it." — Hutwe / Reddit.com
21. “The Andorran effect. Treat the person as if they are already perfect. Try this magic with hooligans: treat them like good people, and you will. — El_Karpitan / Reddit.com
22. "Smiling on the phone makes you happier." — spiderpig1989 / Reddit.com
23. "If you're talking to someone and just handing them something, they tend ." — inkseep1/reddit.com
24. “Whenever someone demonstrates or tells you something, open your mouth just a little. Not necessarily wide; half a centimeter is enough. This helps you appear intrigued and fascinated by what you've been shown. Bill Clinton is the absolute master of this." — ConstableBlimeyChips / Reddit.com
25. “People are more likely to agree to do what you ask if you give a reason, regardless of its validity.” — Martian_Pudding / Reddit.com
26. “Promise less and deliver more. I work in a psychiatric hospital – it is a very valid principle there.” — reddit.com
27. “Say someone's name in the first conversation you meet. People be able to remember it better. — stink3rbelle / Reddit.com
28. “When I am approached with a request, questions, and problems, I ask them to be put in writing. "As soon as I see your email, I will contact you." Email never arrives.” — VnotV / Reddit.com
29. “When someone says something strange, rude, or offensive, I pretend not to hear, so he has to repeat what was said consciously. And if a person repeats, I immediately understand that not everything is all right with him. — Nienoeshhh / Reddit.com
30. “If the client is angry, I just agree with him until he calms down.” — BECKYISHERE / Reddit.com
31. “Normally, if someone asks to choose one of two options, he would prefer the first one.” — jim_deneke / Reddit.com
32. “When I want to please someone, I bring him a hot drink. Warmth in my hands makes the interlocutor kinder. — NeoPagan94 / Reddit.com
33. “If you nod your head while talking (slightly, don’t overdo it), people subconsciously agree with what you are saying, or at least think of you as a friendly, nice person.” — Hardtopickaname / Reddit.com
34. “There are days when I don't give any advice, keep my mouth shut, and only speak when I'm asked. It makes people think I am giving valuable information whenever I open my mouth. This is how I create and increase my value.” — TonyStark39 / Reddit.com
35. "A strong, confident posture can do wonders if you're feeling a little nervous or insecure." — TimeMasterBob/Reddit.com
36. “Positive reinforcement works. . And if you talk about things you hate, you are hardly good company. — madkeepz/reddit.com
37. “Always pretend to be glad to see someone: in return, you will be happy to see.” — paulvs88/reddit.com
38. “People participating in a conversation will follow the interlocutor if he starts walking. I end unwanted conversations at work by literally leading people either back to their desk or another person in the common area.” — roflcopter / Reddit.com
39. “I talk to strangers like they're friends I haven't seen in a while. This is mainly due to intonation, and I quickly develop a rapport with them, especially with people who are not used to this in their environment: cashiers in stores, servers, etc. — the_narrow_road / Reddit.com
40. “When people are screaming, and I need them to listen, I speak more quietly. People will always try to outshout you if you yell." — improbablynotyou / Reddit.com
41. “If you want someone to shut up, say their name, and they will stop dead in their tracks. This allows you to sum up: "I'd love to hear the rest of this story, but I'm late for the meeting." — PropellerHead15 / Reddit.com
42. “The fact that you are not always available increases your value to people, and they tend to miss you more than if you were there all the time.” Rei / Reddit.com