Best relationship advice: how to stay together with your partner for a long time
Best relationship advice: how to stay together for a long time. A phrase that everyone repeats: “Relationships are not easy!”. They develop in a natural rhythm according to the will of feelings: they met, fell in love, and decided to be together. But the people involved can make it complicated.
We are not too pleased with the idea that "relationships need to be worked on." What kind of nonsense is this, but what about love? Why is a harmonious union, which arose from a great and bright feeling, not able to magically work by itself, like a well-oiled machine?
Unfortunately, even the heroes of fairy tales do not hope for this. Relationships take effort, and they can be strong and happy - if you know the right life hacks. A romantic connection can be strengthened and improved by working in two ways:
- demanding more of myself
- ordering more from a partner.
No magic is required; everything is straightforward and set out below in ten tips. You get a sure chance to extend your relationship to the "forever" mode.
What bonds the relationship between partners
True love is not like romantic love, which makes us not notice the shortcomings of a partner. It's a choice. This is the constant support of another person, regardless of the circumstances. This is an understanding that your relationship will not always be cloudless. This is the need to deal with the problems of a partner, his fears and thoughts, even when you don’t feel like it at all. Such love is more prosaic, it requires much more effort from partners. But still, it gives a person much more. After all, in the end, it brings real happiness, and not another short-lived euphoria.
What breaks the relationship between partners
Many still believe in the myth "love lives for three years." After a while, they face misunderstanding, quarrels and reproach the partner with the phrase: “You are no longer the person I knew before.” But in fact, this is normal, because we all change throughout life, and failures and disagreements are inevitable. And how strong the relationship will be depends on how you meet these adversities together. Clinical psychologist and family therapist Mikaela Thomas is sure that eternal love exists. In his book, which is called “Love lives forever. How to Overcome Difficulties and Maintain Intimacy in Long-term Relationships”, she tells the MIF publishing house how to return kindness, warmth and harmony to a couple. In one of the chapters, the author discusses why people break up and how to work on relationships in order to achieve mutual understanding. Below we share this passage and recommend reading the book in its entirety.
Do long-distance relationships last?
Couples rarely decide on long-distance relationships consciously. The reason lovers find themselves in different cities may be studying, circumstances at work, or family situations. Suppose you choose to keep your feelings far away from each other. In that case, you will have to face several trials.
Temptations will follow you at every turn. The lack of attention, affection, and closeness of a loved one can provoke partners to find solace in the arms of others. To protect yourself from such a risk, avoid places of entertainment, noisy companies, and close communication with the opposite sex, especially over a portion of alcohol.
All the tips and tricks you need to keep your love alive.
1. Don't sacrifice your personal life
This kind of freedom is difficult to combine with serious intentions, not in the sense that “keep going on dates with a stable partner.” You can burn with a sincere passion for each other, but this does not mean that the rest of your life should be dissolved in selfless adoration. Do not forget your friends and loved ones, do not give up evening yoga, Saturday sessions at the spa, and Sunday breakfasts with your sister. Take care of your independence, don’t drown your personality in love, don’t get into the habit of asking for time off and reporting - having lost the status of a single, you can still do whatever you want, whenever you want. It invigorates, maintains self-esteem, and saves relationships from routine and boredom.
2. Be honest with your feelings
Tell yourself the truth and only the truth: are you pleased? Satisfied? Physically, emotionally, mentally? Yes, this is not easy - female nature is prone to sacrificial compromises, but these three points are crucial. If you are connected only by mind-blowing sex, sooner or later, the problem is, “what about talking?” Will arise. If you entertain each other with a play on words, but at the same time, intimacy slips into a “C grade,” - the prognosis is also unfavorable. Or are you satisfied with both the mind and physiology, but he avoids talking about love and has never given a flower? This will soon cease to suit you, too. The secret of solid reciprocity is in a stable and natural connection on all points; therefore, make sure that everything in your relationship is the way it is, or at least goes towards it. In other scenarios, think about ways to retreat.
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3. Don't harass or get jealous
Oh, that eternal female question: "Where are you?" piercing men like a voodoo spellcaster's needle. If you bombard him with messages 24/7, call him a hundred times a day. In general, your world revolves only around him. It's time to admit that your feelings are mutating into addiction. Persecution strangles men. This approach will not help to keep anyone acting the opposite precisely. Be more confident in yourself, do not worry. He will not go anywhere. And even if you got such a hot handsome man that it's hard not to worry about this topic, convince yourself that you will be fine anyway. Disable the chase option. Once and forever. Remember that you are the fire. Let him chase you. It's much more fun.
4. Love yourself and take care of yourself
Many women complain that they either cannot find the right partner or are always attracted to specimens who treat them incorrectly. Low self-esteem: we attract the level of love that we experience for ourselves. It is impossible to burn yourself with the napalm of self-criticism daily and expect others to treat you like a queen. Men easily read it.
Look at your qualities positively and start loving yourself for who you are right now. And if you love yourself, then take care of yourself - stay healthy, go to bed on time, indulge in a relaxing bubble bath, or maybe have a spontaneous bachelorette party tonight. It is essential to pamper yourself by nourishing the soul outside of the relationship. Otherwise, you will have nothing to give.
5. Don't try to please and accommodate.
The desire to please is based on the expectation of positive feedback: love, kindness, and gratitude. However, the world is unnecessarily generous with negativity. People will gladly use you, recognizing the need to give themselves without reserve. Relationships are a two-way street: pamper yourself, but make sure you're spoiled. Strive for a healthy balance of self-giving and selfishness. And please, don’t be fooled by the fear of loneliness, agreeing to options from the series “let it be so” - this approach does not bring happiness. I am not one of those waiting for Mr. Perfection, but I firmly believe that we can count on the “what we need” option.
6. Don't avoid problems
Nobody likes conflict. There are certainly people entertained by strife, but they are in the minority. But what happens if the partners, not wanting to sort things out, constantly turn on avoidance mode? Nothing good. If you avoid problems for years, they will accumulate. One day you will wake up 25 years later and realize that you will never be able to sort them out because you have long forgotten how this huge pile began. Don't suppress negative (or positive) emotions. Talk to your partner about any issues that are bothering you. Firstly, you are a team, which means we must work together to overcome adversity. And secondly, you always deserve respect and the right to speak out.
7. Make time for each other
Yes, you have your own life, but, on the other hand, you need to find a balance between the private and the general. Otherwise, the relationship may wither at the most promising stage. Your connection needs care and attention, confessions and walks, surprises and gifts, romantic dates, and cozy home evenings. Be creative. Spare no energy to feed your feelings.
8. Make Equal Efforts
There is an opinion that relationships require a return of 50 to 50. What nonsense, only 100 to 100! Both partners must put 100% effort every day to maintain the relationship at the right degree and dynamics. It is challenging to expect harmony from the connection "100 to 20", "100 to 50," or even "100 to 99". You must be equal. If your alliance is out of balance, you need to talk about it to get back on track.
9. Be generous with empathy and appreciation
When acting as a team, you cannot oppose each other. So, you can not consider only your point of view. Whether you're right or wrong, accept the reality of the difference in perception. If your partner sees the situation differently, try to understand and, most importantly, let him know that you respect his view of things. What else? Be a good listener, and feel free to be grateful. Even if he just loaded the dishwasher, tell him, "thank you." Thank him for what he does for you, and he will want to do it again to make you happy. And, of course, he will be grateful in return.
10. Don't try to change it
It is no secret that many women believe that they can change the man they decide to connect their lives with. “If I make him lose 10 kilos, he will be much more attractive”, or “If I can wean him from video games, I will be happy,” or “Once we get married, he will change for the better” - all these internal insinuations have no relationship to real love and long-term happiness. If you don't like the way he looks, talks, or kisses right now, without thinking of any miraculous changes, you shouldn't be with him. Dot. Free yourself from fictitious duties - leave it to someone who will be happy with the original.
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2021 New Year countdown. Stay up-to-date with the latest news to celebrate together this magical day
When is New Year?
New Year's Day 2021 falls on the 1st of January each year and marks the commencement of the Gregorian calendar. It is one of the most celebrated public holidays not only in the United States of America but throughout the world.
As the clock strikes midnight at various times around the world, the whole world unites in celebration. Often marked with huge firework displays in all the capital cities of the world and party's that run long into the small hours.
It's the time for new beginnings and a new start. It's the time to leave behind all the worries and the negative effects caused by the Coronavirus pandemic. As the new vaccine has been developed by a few leading drug companies, we should be hopeful that 2021 will be a better year.
So let's count the days till this magical event will happen. We, the Bemorepanda team will post daily news about how the world is getting prepared to celebrate this day. Stay tuned.
26th of December, 2020- December 26 is the 360th day of the year (361st in leap years) in the Gregorian calendar. Five days remain until the end of the year. Boxing Day is traditionally celebrated on 26 December, the day after Christmas Day, though many people hold—and there is documentary assertion—that it would not fall on a Sunday.
25th of December, 2020- Christmas magic and happiness is all around! Merry Christmas, dear friends!
24th of December, 2020- December 24 is the 358th day of the Gregorian calendar and the 359th day in leap years. There are 7 days until the end of the year. Christmas Eve is celebrated on December 24th. If Christmas Day falls on a weekend, then this holiday may be observed on a different day.
23th of December, 2020- December 23 is the 357th day of the Gregorian calendar and the 358th day in leap years. There are 8 days until the end of the year. FESTIVUS. Each year on December 23rd, Festivus commemorates a holiday episode of the television comedy, Seinfeld.
22th of December, 2020- December 22 is the 356th day of the Gregorian calendar and the 357th day in leap years. There are 9 days until the end of the year. National Date Nut Bread Day on December 22nd delivers a baker's delight to celebrate. Incidentally, some sources also suggest the day is celebrated on September 8th, too.
21th of December, 2020- December 21 is the 355th day of the Gregorian calendar and the 356th day in leap years. There are 10 days until the end of the year. On this day is celebrated National Sangria Day.
20th of December, 2020- December 20 is the 354th day of the Gregorian calendar and the 355th day in leap years. There are 11 days until the end of the year. Every year on December 20th, International Human Solidarity Day seeks to celebrate the word's unity in diversity.
19th of December, 2020- December 19 is the 353rd day of the Gregorian calendar and the 354th day in leap years. There are 12 days until the end of the year.Today is celebrated National Hard Candy Day.
18th of December, 2020- December 18 is the 352nd day of the Gregorian calendar and the 353rd day in leap years. There are 13 days until the end of the year. Every year on December 18th, International Migrants Day emphasizes the protection of migrants' human rights. The day also recognizes the contributions and efforts of migrants around the world.
17th of December, 2020- December 17 is the 351st day of the Gregorian calendar and the 352nd day in leap years. There are 14 days until the end of the year. National Maple Syrup Day and Wright Brothers Day is celebrated on this day.
16th of December, 2020- December 16 is the 350th day of the Gregorian calendar and the 351st day in leap years. There are 15 days until the end of the year. Today is an extremely sweet day, as we celebrate National Chocolate Covered Anything Day.
15th of December, 2020- On December 15, 1791, the new United States of America ratified the Bill of Rights, the first ten amendments to the U.S. Constitution, confirming the fundamental rights of its citizens. The First Amendment guarantees freedom of religion, speech, and the press, and the rights of peaceful assembly and petition. There are 16 days until the New Year.
14th of December, 2020- Every year on December 14th National Monkey Day celebrates the unique characteristics of simians. The day also focuses on other non-human primates such as apes, tarsiers, and lemurs. There are 17 days until the end of the year.
13th of December, 2020- December 13 is the 347th day of the Gregorian calendar and the 348th day in leap years. There are 18 days until the end of the year. Today is National Cocoa Day and National Violin Day.
12th of December, 2020- Today is celebrated the International Day of Neutrality. There are 19 days until the end of the year.
11th of December, 2020- International Mountain Day is celebrated on 11 December every year to educate children and people about the role that mountains play in providing freshwater, clean energy, food, and recreation. Until the New Year there are 20 days.
10th of December, 2020- Human Rights Day is celebrated on December 10 every year across the world. The day marks the date when the United Nations General Assembly adopted the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (UDHR) in 1948. There are 21 days until 2021.
9th of December, 2020- On December 9, the following events are celebrated: National Pastry Day, Weary Willie Day, Christmas Card Day. There are 22 days until New Year.
8th of December, 2020- On December 8th, many countries including Argentina, Austria, Chile, Colombia, Italy, Malta, Portugal and Spain celebrate the Feast of the Immaculate Conception with a public holiday. There are 23 days until the end of the year.
7th of December, 2020- December 7 is the 341st day of the Gregorian calendar and the 342nd day in leap years. There are 24 days until the end of the year. Today is International Civil Aviation Day.
6th of December, 2020 -The 6th of December is the 340th day of the year, so until the end of 2020 there are 25 days left. On December 6th, Saint Nicholas Day recognizes the third-century saint who became an inspiration for the modern-day Santa Claus. St. Nicholas is known for selling all his possessions and giving his money to the poor.
5th of December, 2020 -The 5th of December is the 339th day of the Gregorian calendar, with 26 days left until the end of the year. Today is celebrated the Candle Day.
4th of December, 2020 - The 4th of December - the 338th day of the year according to the Gregorian Calendar. There were 27 days left until the end of the year. National Cookie Day on December 4th serves up a sweet treat. Bakers across the country warm up the ovens for holiday baking, and we enjoy giving tins of cookies to friends and family all season long. We can thank the Dutch for more than windmills and tulips.
3nd of December, 2020 - December 3 is the 337th day of the Gregorian calendar. Today is the International Day of Persons with Disabilities (December 3) is an international observance promoted by the United Nations since 1992.
2nd of December, 2020 - The second day of this magic winter, there are only 29 days till the end of the year. Worldwide 2nd December celebrated as World Computer Literacy Day, World Pollution Prevention Day and International Day for Abolition of Slavery.
1st of December, 2020 - Today is officially winter and also today, we begin to count the number of days we have left until the New Year, 2021. December awareness days and months include a host of important causes and health events. It is also the season to be jolly and show your love and compassion. Kicking off the month is World Aids Day, on December 1st.
Amazon is full of fake reviews and while we cannot make it go away, Bemorepanda has collected 50 most hilarious to make us laugh together
One of the things we face online whenever we try to buy a product, be it from Amazon or from any other retailer in your country, you inevitably have to come face to face with a funny or fake written review.
There are also cases in which we have well-argued reviews, with notable strengths and disadvantages, but most of the time they are buried in a sea of other comments, if we talk about a consumer product. What's more, the comments on the products purchased were always funny. Sometimes tragic, but most of the time they put a smile on our face.
You can still find the eternal genius of grammar who gives his opinion, the IT misery expert, the impatient mother, but the typologies are not important, more the form that the review takes at the end, and in this case, many of the reviews have were assaulted by an autocorrect.
Below you can see the funniest and fake reviews on Amazon collected by Bemorepanda.
1.Bic for Her
3.Where is the belly button
4.WMA Blue Amazon Kindle Waterproof Case
9.Overhead Rubber Penguin Mask
11.Veet for men
13.Nexus Silent Wired Mouse
14.The Wolf of Wall Street
16.Denon Akdl1 Dedicated Link Cable
17.Modifilan Pure Brown Seaweed
18.Microsoft Winows 95
20.Honey Male Chastity Device
22.Microwave for one
23.Wreacking Balm Tattoo
25.Accoutrements Horse Head Mask
26.Hde Usb Wall Charger
27.Kgoal Smart Kegel Pelvic Floor Exerciser
29.The Holy Bible
30.The mountain three wolf moon
34.Astor Bidet Fresh Water Spray
44.Beds like ice-cream
45.Keeps the car cool
46.Lined Cat Muzzle
47.White Toilet Brush and Holder
49. Trump make America great again
50.Tuscan Whole Milk
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Fruits and vegetables that should not be stored together
For a long time, going to the grocery supermarket has become a routine and even something more than just buying food. Often we run into the store just to stare, to pass the time in the hope of finding something tasty. That is why most often our grocery basket is littered with goods bought spontaneously.
Not a couple: which fruits and vegetables should not be stored together.
For example, putting various fruits and vegetables in a cart, we put everything in the refrigerator when we return home, without thinking about the correct storage of them, hoping to eat the purchased products within a few days. But in the end, many goods are either rotten or taste bad. Why is this happening? Few people know, but it turns out that many fruits and vegetables cannot be stored together.
Bemorepanda figured out which foods should be stored separately so as not to end up throwing half of them in the trash later, which foods should be safely stored outside the refrigerator. You will learn how to improve the taste of food during storage, as well as what is needed to increase their shelf life.
Apples and carrots
Fruits and vegetables tend to release odors that are well absorbed by other foods, including absorbing each other's odors well. But there are also those who are superabsorbers.
A classic example is the smell of apples. When stored, apples give off a characteristic pungent odor that other fruits and vegetables can absorb. Especially carrots, which absorb the smells of other products well, including apples.
For this reason, experts advise keeping apples and carrots away from each other. By the way, cabbage, figs and onions also absorb the flavor of apples well. And remember, the closer fresh vegetables and fruits are to each other and the more enclosed the space where you store them, the more likely it is that the smells of the products will mix with each other.
Tip: Buy food storage containers and store vegetables and fruits in different containers.
Avocado and cucumber
Also, do not store avocados and cucumbers together. Reason: Avocado is a menopausal fruit (a fruit that is able to ripen after harvest). Cucumbers, on the other hand, are not able to become more mature after they have been removed from the garden.
Climacteric fruits after harvest, while continuing to ripen, will release a large amount of gaseous ethylene (saturated hydrocarbon C2H4). Non-climacteric fruits and vegetables emit very little (or no) ethylene gas, causing them to stop ripening after they are harvested.
If you store ethylene-releasing foods with ethylene-sensitive foods, the latter may become overripe, soft, and spoil more quickly. So if you put cucumbers and avocados together, there is a risk that the former will spoil quickly.
Instead, store avocados alone or alongside other menopausal fruits and vegetables (such as apples, tomatoes, cantaloupe, pears, and peaches). Store cucumbers with other non-menopausal vegetables and foods (such as leafy greens and root vegetables).
Tip: do not buy cucumbers in large quantities. Instead, buy something that you can realistically eat within a week. First, cucumbers bought at the grocery store usually didn't arrive on the counter straight from the garden and therefore may not be perfectly fresh. Secondly, they are often covered with a protective wax coating. If you keep them in the refrigerator for too long, they may spoil.
Climacteric fruits and vegetables should not be stored in the refrigerator. Otherwise, you will slow down their ripening process and spoil their taste.
Potato and onion
Potatoes and onions are best stored in a cool, dark place, but kept separate from each other because onions produce ethylene. The ethylene gas will quickly cause the potatoes to sprout.
In addition, potatoes can also absorb the odors of foods that are near them, including onions. While onions pair well with potatoes (in terms of flavor), storing them together can cause the potatoes to take on an onion flavor, which may not be desirable depending on what you intend to cook with them. The same goes for garlic.
To prolong the shelf life of potatoes, store them in a basket or open container and do not wash until just before cooking. Onions store onions in a cool, dark, well-ventilated place.
Tips:Place the onion in the refrigerator for at least 30 minutes before slicing it. So you protect yourself from "bitter" tears.
If you have extra onions after peeling and slicing, don't throw them away. Take a food storage container and put the onions in it, tightly closing the lid. This will protect other foods from the smell of onions.
Place some baking soda in the refrigerator to absorb the strong onion smell.
Tomatoes and bananas
Tomatoes and bananas have a lot in common: they are both ethylene-releasing menopausal fruits and are best stored on a countertop, kitchen counter, or windowsill at room temperature. So, can they be stored together then? Not so simple.
In fact, this pair of products cannot be stored together. The fact is that both fruits and vegetables that ripen quickly after harvest (for example, tomatoes, bananas, kiwi and melons) are best stored separately. If you keep them too close together, the high amount of ethylene they produce can cause them to ripen faster. And this means that vegetables and fruits can, quickly overripe, begin to rot (ferment).
Tip: Want to speed up the ripening process of a fruit or vegetable? In this case, if they release ethylene, store them next to each other. For example, this way you can speed up the ripening of a tomato. But do not miss the moment of full ripening, otherwise you will not have time to enjoy the aroma and taste of a ripe fruit.
Mushrooms and onions
White, yellow, and red onions and their cousin green onions have a very strong characteristic smell. Mushrooms, on the other hand, absorb water well, as well as odors. If you store mushrooms in the fruit and vegetable drawer along with onions, they will begin to absorb the onion smell. As a result, their taste will become like anything, but not mushrooms. However, they do not absorb the smell very quickly. Therefore, if you put onions with mushrooms together for one or two days, then they are unlikely to have time to absorb the onion flavor.
Tip: If you don't plan on using the mushrooms for five or more days, keep them away from onions (especially green ones) in a cardboard container or paper bag - mushrooms need a dry environment and these containers will absorb excess moisture.
If you store it in a plastic bag, then you will not get rid of excess moisture, because condensation will form inside, which the mushrooms will immediately absorb. The same goes for plastic or glass containers.
Bell pepper and fresh herbs
Bell peppers are a relatively satisfying vegetable that does not require much care during storage, and it can be safely thrown into the refrigerator without bothering. But if you do the same when storing fresh herbs, you'll be disappointed when it's time to take the herbs out of the fridge. Especially if you put heavy bell peppers or other vegetables / fruits on top of the greens.
Tip: Herbs, especially green ones [such as parsley, cilantro, or dill], are rather tricky foods that can quickly go bad if not stored properly. If you plan to use store-bought greens soon, cut off the bottom of the stems, remove any wilted or brown leaves, put everything in a jar with a little water at the bottom, and place the container in the refrigerator.
Not only will this keep the greens fresh and flavorful, but it will also prevent them from changing appearance or being crushed under heavier vegetables. For example, under bell pepper, which will easily flatten any greens, which can speed up the process of its decomposition.